From baby sister to the bride’s younger sister!
Weddings are an occasion of celebration everywhere for all. When it comes to India word big fat Indian wedding describes it all. Excitement, thrill, love, food and music filled environment. But there’s one person more tensed than even the bride. Who you ask? It’s the bride’s younger sister. Why? Because of society.
Suddenly, the younger sibling becomes an adult. Those five days of festivities, are a glimpse of life she’ll have. Realizing that the responsibilities the elder sibling caried will now be all her. But that’s not the problem. People don’t see that she’s partially losing an shade. Losing her elder sibling’s guidance. What they see is another girl to make a bride. Another victim for the vicious and some times traumatizing pressurization.
Even before the bride takes her wedding vows relatives start looking for the next target. If harsh words can be excused, start looking for their next prey. Who will be better than the recently work loaded and alone bride’s younger sibling. What she hears more than congratulations, is your up next.
No one cares how she’s doing. The girl breaking her cocoon is told how they’ll chop her wings. Frightened she wishes to go back. Thinking why is her elder sibling entering such a hellish relationship. Not just because of love for her sister but for her own skin.
Only thoughts she have is how to save herself. Where to run to. The pressure of maintaining calm, and pain of losing sister both come crashing. This is the pain all the younger siblings ( sisters ) face. Where are we going with this intention. Why can’t a girl not even enjoy her elder siblings joy. Before that how did marriage became important than people. Why all of girls happiness and choices are based on it. For all the wishes, answer is after marriage. From a trip with friends to tattoos. For every permission a girl asks answer is “Shadi ke baad” ( after marriage) , “ apne pati ke sath “ ( along your husband) , “ dusre ghar kya bologi” ( How’ll you answer the in-laws). All these are the questions which start from adolescence and end only after marriage. But, how can someone tell if the answer will be according to their own wish or not. Why do people bound girls life to such ridicules.
It’s because, the society see women as assets and liabilities at the same time. Assets for those who bring home bride. Liabilities for those who give birth. Why can’t a girl breath without thinking of someone else making her decisions?How can parents teach a girl to obey a guy even they themselves don’t know? How can someone teach their child to follow a complete stranger?
Who began this procedure? What’s the beginning of this and will their be ever an end? All I want to ask is, have you ever been the part of this trauma for a girl? Ever one of the weights under which the younger sister is being crushed ? Ever said, you’re up next to a girl on her sister’s wedding?
